Just like the 2 minute drill in football- sometimes 2 minutes can make all the difference. If you invest 2 minutes- twice a day…just 2 minutes…I guarantee you will see a difference in your home.
This one is too easy- so don’t you dare pass it up.
My area of specialty is working with men and marriages affected by pornography. Today’s lesson is an inoculation- consider this a flu shot. 100% prevention.
A strong bond with your wife and family is one of the best ways to protect yourself from being lured into the jungle by porn and lust.
The four minutes a day you are about to learn about will pay off like nothing else- like buying the winning lottery ticket.
Do I have your attention yet? Good- I dare you to try this secret recipe for 3 days as an experiment. Be sure to leave your feedback in the comments section after three days.
Here we go:
The First 2 Minutes: Pay very close attention to the last two minutes before you and your wife part ways in the morning. These last moments together set the course for how you will feel and think about each other throughout the day. It sets the tone.
Do you leave in a frustrated rush? Are you spewing information to each other on the way out the door? Do you even say goodbye to each other?
Sometimes life gets crazy and we all do these things.
Be intentional about slowing down and tuning in during these last 2 minutes. Make eye contact, hug her, tell her that you love her. No really, tell your wife that you love her and will miss her during the day.
This is different from the “love you” on your way out the door.
Bonus points for physical touch. Not getting frisky. Caring touch that lets your wife know you like her.
Kiss your wife- more than a peck on the lips or cheek on the way out. Aim for a 5 second kiss. Again- nothing sexual here.
When you hug your wife and kiss her for about 5 seconds your nervous systems begin to sync up, and both of you relax. You remember how much you like being together.
Feeling connected with your wife makes you both look forward to reconnecting in the evening. You miss each other. If you have any plans to be intimate that night- make sure you connect well in the morning.
2 minutes in the morning: listen to your wife, ask about what she has in store for the day, ask how you can pray for her, hold her and kiss her for 5 seconds. This isn’t mission impossible- you can do it.
You are half way there!
The Second 2 Minutes: Tune in to the first 2 minutes when you come home or when you and your wife come back together. The first 2 minutes are CRITICAL!!!
Both of you have probably had stressful days and are coasting in on fumes. It is vital to nail the first 2 minutes when you get home. Do everything within your power to get this one.
These first 2 minutes set the tone for how the rest of the evening will go. Fuss at each other and it is hard to recover. Get lost in the busyness of life, and you hit the bed feeling alone and exhausted.
These 2 minutes are all about reconnecting as a husband and wife that like and love each other. Hug and kiss for 5 seconds. Make eye contact. Let her know that you missed her. Tell her that you love her. Listen to her. Help with what she is doing.
For bonus points- do the same thing with the kids (no kissing of course). Don’t jump into drill sergeant mode and bark orders. Connect with them and things will go much smoother with your kids that evening as well.
Many wives have told me that seeing their husband connecting with their kids is a major turn on. Momma bear melts when you love on her cubs.
When a husband that I met with tried this experiment- he was amazed. His wife was amazed.
After coming through the door giving out orders and pushing the kids to get on track- he started spending the first few minutes reconnecting with his wife and his children. Everything went a thousand times better.
The kids were better behaved, and did what he asked with much pushback. His wife was relieved and her heart was full.
He became the hero instead of the villain.
So there it is- 2 Critical Minutes that can transform your marriage. The last 2 minutes before you leave, and the first 2 minutes when you come home.
Take the 2 Minute Challenge and leave your feedback in the comments section.
I can’t wait to hear your results!